The sensitivity - a rare phenomenon, especially among children, who rarely think who and what they say. The abuser and resentful of the day can not once changed roles, while the next morning, most children do not even remember the details of the conflicts have occurred.

However, if the child susceptible beyond measure - is hampered not only him but also to all those with whom he comes into contact. Any situation of communication painted in shades of negative inadequate reaction of the child to what is happening. Cope with this painful reaction is very difficult.

Do not brush off from the children’s resentment, both from a nonsense, not worthy of your adult attention. Well already the fact that between you and the child trust relationship established so that it tells you about their concerns. Believe me, this does not occur in every family. Do not make fun of his feelings, even light can be condescending grin hundredfold strengthen put the bitterness of resentment. Trying to encourage the child’s smile, in fact, you show him a complete misunderstanding of the seriousness of his experiences. But it is the understanding and support to you and he appealed.

Of course, this does not mean that every offense must love to hear, examine and discuss the clock, in any case! Having carefully listened to the child and expressed his understanding and compassion, change the subject to more pleasant not to develop the habit of hours “whine in shirt” or a dash of vindictiveness.

A characteristic of children’s psyches is the ease with which they forget frustration and resentment. And if you see that the child was quiet, switched to something else, do not remind him of the unpleasant situation of like “How, all right?” That would be tantamount, if you wake up the sleeping man, to remind him that he forgot to drink sleeping pills.

As a rule, inclined to resent the children with low self-esteem and, therefore, the most important thing that parents should do in this case - always show your child that he loved them what it is, not for any merit or success, but simply because . And while the psychology it’s called “unconditional love”, it is difficult to imagine that true love can be different.

If you ask a student resentful that he would like to do with their abuser if it was omnipotent magicians is likely to hear something like “jailed, beat, and this is not the most violent options that sometimes offers a resentful child.

To destroy the already formed the child’s logical connection “resentment-revenge”, the image of “the enemy” in his consciousness must be gradually transformed. First, you can invite a child abuser to find something funny. Then - try to find enemies something that causes a pity. With this task, children of primary school age job worse than older, because the ability to empathize with young children and is almost absent with age. To facilitate this task, you can remind your child that unjustified, unwarranted aggression - is often a sign of protection and, consequently, the abuser is trying its actions balance your state, causing you to fear, anxiety and humiliation. The next step - to find in his enemy that causes sympathy. If you have trouble at this stage it is not superfluous to recall that there are no people weaving from some shortcomings. And finally, last - try to see the eyes of the abuser himself, to understand why the man decided that you can be hurt. In doing so, parents themselves may also examine whether they not support the child on the role of victim did not ask whether their respect to certain script of his communication with people. If the family enjoys a disparaging or disrespectful attitude towards the child’s personality, his children’s needs and concerns, it is this attitude and will wait for a child from other people, unconsciously bringing any situation to communicate to the usual model.

It is clear that children’s susceptibility does not grow in a vacuum, its roots - especially education. And if we want our children in the future become prosperous and successful, our task is to strengthen its confidence that he, like all people, deserve love and respect.