Humanist approach to human beings and human relationships is the ideological basis of this book. He opposes the authoritarian style of parenting, which has long prevail in our schools and families. Humanism in education is based primarily on an understanding of the child - his needs and requirements on knowledge of patterns of growth and development of his personality. The style of communication that you become familiar in this book, based on such knowledge.

Most parents who seek psychological care about the hardship of children themselves as a child suffering from conflicts with their parents. The experts concluded that the style of parental interaction inadvertently «written» (stamp) in the psyche of the child. This happens very early, even in pre-school age, and tend to unconsciously.

After becoming adults, people play it as a natural. Thus from generation to generation occurs social inheritance style of communication: most parents raise their children as they cultivate themselves in childhood.

Another part of the parents more or less aware of what exactly is the proper upbringing, but in practice they have difficulties. It happens that the theoretical explanation work carried out by psychologists and educators of the best of intentions, brings harm to parents: they know what they’re doing «all is not well», try to behave in a new, fast «thwarted», lose self-confidence and blame labeled themselves, and even pour out anger on children.

Parents must not only educate but also to teach the correct ways of communicating with children.

Study of course, the best in live communication. Many countries no longer exist a decade «courses by» »for parents. Be found that many parents are much more willing to change the style of communication within the family, than psychologists. As a result, adult education is not only able to stop «Cold War» with children, but found them a deep understanding.

We learned to communicate primarily intended for those who wish to or forced to master the art of communication itself.

Each lesson includes a small but important and sometimes difficult to understand the material. It is necessary to do the job the lessons and not just read the text. It’s important to feel and survive the first successes in your practical samples after each lesson, and then move forward. Gradually you will discover wonderful changes in your situation with your child, even if at first it seemed hopeless.