How much is written, but said the relationship between parents and children. A WHO and currently there. Many parents are unhappy with their children, criticized their behavior and want to live a life for them. In turn, the children quietly hate their parents for interfering in their lives, for the control and manipulation of the scandals and recriminations.

And this situation has lasted for more than one millennium and likely appeared simultaneously with the emergence of mankind.

Of course, there are few happy families where the parents and children enjoy the respect and understanding. And I want to believe that most of these families. But in this article I would like to touch it is destructive of families. Families, which hurt the normal and free development as human beings.

So, what kinds of relationships are in families.

1. Parents - tyrants. Parents are trying to completely subjugate the will of children. They control their every step, every deed. Of course, this is behind talk of love and care. But love does not control and do not suppress. This love of confidence and support, not demanding anything in return. And how many parents would not believe himself or others, that they want a child only good, they have only one goal - total control over the lives of their sons. What are the options for the future in such a family? A child or running away from the family to be able to live their lives. Or fully subject to the will of their parents and becoming a “plant”. Unfortunately, the first option is not ideal, because in most cases the child is hurt by parents for life, and he will unconsciously draw in their future family relations, which he saw as a child.

2. Weak and spineless parents. It is parents who do not have in life and, accordingly, nothing can give their children. Such parents to their parents, not authority. In such families are often grown children tyrants, which is fully controlled and manipulated by their parents. Of these children grow up are often socially don’t adapted adults. While of course there are exceptions.

3. The parents - friends. A nice way of family relations. If you just such parents feel that you are lucky. These parents entrust their children allow them to live their independent lives. These parents often look younger than their age and interests of young people are interested. These parents are good that at least does not prevent developing their children, do not run into their private lives, leaving enough room for freedom and development.

4. Hollow parents. This is deeply unfortunate and disadvantaged people who can not and can not love. For them children - is nothing more than a perennial problem. They will never embrace, do not kiss, did not speak to their children sweet words. They often can be heard: “Why should we gave birth to you. With YOU our life in a ruins (a)”. Children from such families 2 version of the future. They also lives show no feelings, and from this suffering both they and their environment. Or the child firmly decide for themselves that it all be different. Often, children from such families in the future become a very loving and tender parents.

5. And probably the best option, parents - mentors. These parents are really involved in their children. They do not just give them to the garden, then in school, an institution. And then divorce in the hands of a loss as to why, they say we have no understanding of children. Parents - mentors sincerely interested in their children, communicate with them, approve of any of their choice, while helping to make the right decision. Such parents of a child watching the interests of their children and help them to an early age found his calling. These parents never tell their child: go to study or work here because my life like this, and now you will realize my dream. These parents will never be manipulated by their children, forcing them to do what the parents see fit. Parents - mentors provide a complete selection of the development of your child while helping him suggest doing everything to ensure that the child has his own life. Unfortunately, these minority parents. Maybe because we have years of teaching physics, mathematics, literature and sometimes quite pointless things, but nobody, and never taught us how to be those parents who can bring to this happy and harmonious children.

It’s no secret that many people throughout their lives continue in one form or another to suffer because of relationships with parents. Someone refuses or avoids communication. Other permanent fall out, scandals and find out between them. And some choose option humble and submissive child who imitates wonderful family relations, but secretly hates his parents for their ill-existing life. If you have a really warm and sincere relations with parents, I have you warmly congratulate. Although there is a high probability that you just do not understand the impact of your parents seem to be self-selected and not notice the hidden manipulation. While it may be for you and it is for the better.

“So what good can I learn from this article - think you are. I know perfectly well that good and loving family, very little. With this you just need to accept all”. It turns out that the most important yet to come.

So, you just such parents and no other. You just such relations with them. You take offence them, be nasty, blowing or harbor anger deep inside. And what is this all done? For example, and to continue to drag this along in life? For example, and continue to suffer and blame all their troubles parents? And what do you choose?

I suggest you do not forgive his parents. Yes, all right, you’re not mistaken. Do not forgive! Why? Because the fact of forgiveness implies that you take offence , you did poorly and you are now as great a judge can execute or pardon the convict. Therefore, I propose another, much more viable option.

I propose to sincerely thank your parents. And do it now. Why defer? To thank them for the scandals, the recriminations, with the manipulation of repression and control over interfere in your personal life, and you impose your views.

Why give thanks? This is done simply because you can choose their parents. Choose the place and time of your birth, do you believe in it or not. It is these parents need to have your formation as a person, for your development and maturation. If, for example, you have parents tyrants and keep you repress, you simply vital to thank them for this lesson, but become strong and self-confident person. Believe me, once you find self-confidence, parents will stop at your tread. You just stop noticing it, or the mere pressure stop you hurt.

So why are all the same faces sincerely thank my parents:

1. You can choose to accept such tests. These tests you need for your maturation and development.

2. Thanking parents, you will live much easier and more pleasant. You will become more happy and lucky.

3. Having experienced difficult relationships with parents, you have received invaluable experience and now know exactly what you want in your relationship future family.

4. You are responsible for their lives and no parent can not spoil it without your consent.

5. Only after thanking his parents and sent them away, you can move forward.

However, under the concept of gratitude, I do not encourage you to obey your parents in everything, be industrious children and did not grieve. I appeal to live their lives, make their decisions free from the negative influence of parents. But do not be nasty and do not take offense to them. But if the parents hurt, anger and upset, because you not to listen to them and not do in life as they deem appropriate, it is only their problem. This is your life, it you need to live and no one has the right to tell you how you can come, but no.

Thanks’ your parents today.