Modern (city) - it means a child of time, the product of civilization. Our civilization is more focused on a single person than on the family. He has the qualities necessary for it: it is mobile, independent, bold decisions and less whimsical pr … stronger, in a word. And the values of civilization, it seems to me more focused on free, which means a single person. Power, fame, career, etc. The person is easier to match a modern world, especially in mega-cities, and the world is too focused on him. A Family values poorly built and correlate with the values of modern civilization. Nowadays everything is changing so quickly that only free, mobile, and this is typically a single person, can keep pace, to keep abreast of “life”.

A family, with his other domestic temperament, even the relative passivity of course are failing and many of our “too modern” contemporaries perceived as archaic, tie, etc. And the person is not free from the demands teaser and the influences of modern civilization (such as, in because of human weakness - a lot) - is closely in the family, and she often makes the choice not in favor of the family. And the family as a system, with its values and laws is “between two lights” - individual and the metropolis, both of which are strong specificity shown and awareness of its goals and values, and therefore choose each other as partners who are interested in each other.

Perhaps, if we compare the percentage of single people, families now and, say, one hundred years ago, we received strong confirmation of our findings.

This phenomenon has always been somewhat peculiar to men and, as occurs now, we are not very surprised. Nowadays, this trend has touched and women, and this naturally attracted our attention. And we are talking about it. Civilization is no leniency to the floor. For men, I think it has affected to a lesser extent, as a people more autonomous and independent accustomed, and even to some extent already “get one’s fill” this freedom.

The word “chose” not always true in the case, a phenomenon that we are discussing. Since choice - this is a conscious act strong and independent person, bearing full responsibility for the consequences and everything that relates to this effect. As for the majority of people (and not only women, not only today’s) what we perceive as a choice, so really is not, because no man chooses, and his single, faithful, yet he remains alone, to choose . And the choice that makes our civilization, for which he, being single, fits better than build family. The man, whom we also attributes the “choice of Solitude”, it really does is it just went on the road seemed to be more readily understandable, more interesting, to go where you want lower cost domestic efforts. I.e. it is not volitional choice, but rather a capitulation to the pressure of civilization. True, all this does not eliminate the possibility of making someone is informed choice, rather we are talking about a mass phenomenon.

And yet a few words about the “permissibility” loneliness in our time. What was once considered “a luxury” rare “for the rich” are now available to many. One is not something that survive and live - quite easily. The Conquest of Civilization replace us with a substantial portion of our permanent partner. Heat, all the amenities - at your fingertips, food - in step accessibility, security - the minimum provided. Necessity, as her husband, and his wife became less vital. ” And our human need for freedom and independence, can be understood is originally in our time, got a real opportunity to exercise.