If you are not twenty-and long-girlfriend get married … If you are a frequent guest on other people’s celebrations, and sometimes to rest in family plots … Finally, if you have a very child and you do not isolate Son of communication with peers … then you just sooner or later appear problem whose name - other people’s children.

Do you remember how this started?

Cod in the kitchen salted cucumber girlfriend with a darkly-solemn smile announced their pregnancy. What you watched horrified as she is gaining weight and making a hard belly-watermelon in office, scare young trainee! Then you ran shopping some bonnet and sliders and lucky drunk and happy pop - her husband’s friend, the statement from the hospital. You have issued attached to grunt convolution in the pink and blue elephant and banned arrive next three months (quarantine), then your friendship has been subject to a complex regime of Dr. Spock. You learn that nursing mothers are rarely valetudinarian when the middle of the night run across the city for the children’s doctor when the baby distend tummy. You understand that saliva with cream of wheat bad on a business suits, while Chocolates blurred death for light skirts. Then you are baptized him, and you become a mother - a mother cross. In your diary has two entries with red pencil - the day of his birth and baptism (do not forget God forbid!) When you should come to the house with a machine, designer «Lego», a computer (it grows godson) and fulfill his mother’s debt. So touching kid gradually becoming a strong impudent student, who unceremoniously missing your mobile phone and demands to put his steering wheel for a car. You watch as hysterical beeps girlfriend, asking the young wretch return to walk at least nine in the evening. And once it catches gateway smokers, but he did not seek to hide «goby». And then you realize that all this must be such as to respond. But how? And why only us fall this obligation - to educate other people’s children?

1. You will not be like other people’s children! If the sight of someone else’s child you are not drawn to play with him in the cubes - no lie themselves and others, and did not try to press out of a baby talk. Children, even the smallest - are worthy of respect. Remember how unpleasant it was in your barefoot childhood, when foreign aunt - mother’s friends - hard you rub on the head while not even looking at your side? Remember how frightened their red nails and past endurance stinks «Red Moscow»? Better to joke to the surrounding that you have not yet woke up Mary Pippins and the mercy of the child chokolate. That would be more honest than the sepulchral voice read a fairy tale.

2. Do you and his mother may be different views on education. You put to sleep for eight, but somebody’s kid watching an adult thriller on TV in half of the twelfth. At heart you are confident that the treatment is correct and you warp from the «lawlessness». And his mother? Of course, you can ask about this, but most likely you hear anything about Japanese methods of education. I think this is not the case when you can make a difference. Close to the eyes, and for conscience ’sake buy girlfriend as a gift book «The benefits regime for pre-school children».

3. He tumble you meet because of the angle and shouting «Fight IT!» Discharged in your iron pellet from the children’s air pistol. That is precisely here you can speak. In the end, it is aggression directed against you and you can speak on their behalf, not hiding behind the authority. Not cursed the child and does complain to their parents. Sit so your eyes are opposite each other and calmly say that you were unpleasantly, and pellet inflicted pain. You would not want to be among his enemies and asks you not to offend you continue. It is possible that this lesson equitable communication will be the first in a child’s life. Aggressive children are often the victims of aggression. Show them that you are the same as he did not intend to use their «adult» situation you give lesson of kindness and justice.

4. You have a serious conversation with a girlfriend and her child vertical you underfoot be attracting attention. Try to agree with girlfriend and a child. Promised to play with him a little bit (and actually do it) in response to the fact that after he gives you a quiet chat. A friend say that you concentrate hard and you do not wish to see to children’s ears feel adult expression. People are so accustomed to their children, which sometimes can not imagine how they can prevent another. It may be recalled only in diplomatic form.

5. Invitations to guests of couples have not always easy points. Therefore, in advance by becoming friends in the plan known whether holiday or event for adults. For children to better cover children’s table and give their professional concerns. Many domestic agencies offer services clowns. And you will not be time to keep both the children and take guests.

6. Not infrequently, children of friends make us their idols. If you are beautiful, successful, fun and clever, and your visit to the house always reminds a little holiday with you can look and even at full fall in love seriously. Children will tell you, as a magic fee, ask your autographs and ask how to do the same hairstyle. Imagine what would be a shock to the decade-daughters of your friends if one morning she sees you disheveled, with blurred ink devoted to her mother that yesterday you moved a bit at the party. Therefore - Attention! These stars are always generous to his fans. Wink a girl and tell that at a party in your love wonderful prince! It may be it will be the only one who sincerely wish you happiness!

7. If a child is entrusted to you the mystery, whatever it was - not to him, and did not tell his parents about it. So easy to let out and laugh over the tremulous child secret for a glass of wine. Mom even less able to hold one’s tongue, and you give child incurable injury destroying confidence in the integrity and authority of adults. All the rules of the adult world are in communion with the children! But their violation could lead to irreparable consequences indeed.

8. Alien children can hurt your own child, mutilate dog, cause harm to your property. Do not take on the role of a judge, not stall at the Creek, is not seeking to punish itself. In critical situations, better to talk simultaneously with the child and his parents. Think of the presentation material claim. Be themselves adequately. Do not start the case to drift. The world would be far fewer criminals if adults serious belonged to other people’s children.

9. If you learn that someone else’s child is using drugs or trouble with him speak with his parents. You are not responsible for the fate of other people’s children, but should not pass by someone else’s misery. Sometimes, the problem of difficult children know of. And parents are beginning to sound the alarm when someone else draw the attention.

Alien child grows, and once from a Little Men turn into a wise, good, enthusiastic friend - your friend. He will teach you blink looking at the stars, so that they become a small comet. He called your husband and you are good magic itself imperceptibly believe it. With it you come back on skates, revise baby films and at least temporarily return to childhood, which has long been forgotten, and from which so pleased to see the world.