“I know that kids can not be beat and corporal punishment is not the case. Yes, I because of his finger and did not touch. You know what I am doing? He is afraid of the dark, afraid because I have bolt in the basement, turn off the lights and leave it there. Look would you have what it then becomes a silk! “is the story of his father, which led to a survey of six boys with severe neurosis.

“Do not you believe him. I see him completely, sham. On purpose - slowly unfasten the belt, it has yet to touch, as he had already beeps, calling my mother to be protected“, so said another father, afflicted poor achievers son.

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Born baby has only two ways to respond - a pleasure when he sit, it comfortably and warmly, and displeasure when he is hungry, he was scared, hurt or cold. Excitement is expressed to others in the form of smiles, joyful goo, calm or sleep quietly. His displeasure same baby was in the form of weeping, shouting, buck, at a later age - in the form of biting, soil, refraining from eating, and later appeared protests reaction to the destruction of what he considers valuable to the abuser. For others it may sometimes seem like motivational aggression, which often leads parents blush and feel a mixture of feelings of shame, confusion and fear in the face of aggressive behavior by their sons, which in turn pushes parents to establish the child’s ban on the expression of aggression. The desire of parents to prevent aggressive behavior in the child also dictated and social requirements. There are unpleasant to listen to complaints from educators, teacher or coach to destructive behavior son or daughter! The first reaction of parents tend to become a reproach or punish the child in order to teach him that can not be so. Unfortunately, it rarely leads to problems because the sight of missing the most important thing, namely that a child like this show, as he reported that way. Let us try to understand that mean these aggressive acts and then, to understand the reasons become much clearer what to do.

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The source of these two words together in the head with one of the first born image of the Madonna and Child, known for paintings by old masters.
And becomes like a nice, warm, as if some fantasies, dreams of a distant childhood lived somewhere nearby. Indeed, when the son is at the very ages when a full can be called a child, and these two are nothing like the dream alive. The mother (Madonna) looked gently, with care and faith in the future that awaits them both, and that she would try to achieve.

But time is running inexorably forward, and our ideas are lagging behind, failing in step with the times, and this is especially telling in the case of the two - a mother and son. Put the history of their relations, while a son is not yet fully become adult - it can be very different, but like anything, it is still fully described their family status: mother, son. In the future it will be precisely on these two, when a third, father’s family, or for any reason or no it is purely nominal, not being present on either the husband or father or head of household.

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Autism - mental illness, a disease that arises in young children where the child is unable to communicate with the outside world. For parents it is - a great tragedy. Sometimes the disease is not easy to identify, particularly at an early stage.

According to statistics, autism occurs in one out of 250 babys. One of them - year-Lauren Anderson. Her parents are very worried by the fact that the girl properly developed, and suggest that she suffers from autism. «When it is something unhappy, it beats the head of any solid object, and publishes a wild screams», - said the mother of Lauren.

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Calendar of child development. Child referred to as a newborn in the period from birth and up to 4 weeks. In the early days of his entire body to work more energized and more stable and calm condition is only the beginning of the second week.

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Standards of Kids Development

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A normal child should not only time to gain weight and grow, but also to show their emotions and show some motor skills. Therefore, having found no age-appropriate motor development (motor function) and the psyche, is required to determine whether the delay depends on the development of birth defects or she is due to the fact that with few baby involved parents.

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We are perhaps the most subtle point: how to preserve the natural activity of the child? Do not hummer, not stifle it?

It turns out that parents wait here a double threat.

The risk first - too early to shift its share of the child. In our example, a cycle is tantamount to have five minutes to release and the steering wheel and seat. The inevitable decline in such cases can lead to what the child has lost the desire to sit on a bicycle.

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I must say that children feel good and peaks, which they now need. How often do they ask: «Play with me», «Come walk», «Come mess around», «Take me with you», «Can I, too, will …». And if you do not really serious reasons for denial or delay, the answer would be let only one: «Yes!».

And what happens when parents are regularly denied? To cite as an illustration of a conversation in psychological counseling.

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«Come along!» Part 1

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Humanist approach to human beings and human relationships is the ideological basis of this book. He opposes the authoritarian style of parenting, which has long prevail in our schools and families. Humanism in education is based primarily on an understanding of the child - his needs and requirements on knowledge of patterns of growth and development of his personality. The style of communication that you become familiar in this book, based on such knowledge.

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The problem of raising a difficult child is one of the most important issues in contemporary society.

In this regard, there was need for more careful study of effective measures remedial work with adolescents destructive behavior.

For adolescents with disruptive behaviors observed inadequate self-esteem, high levels of school anxiety and manifestations of aggression.

As the researchers note, for young people with difficulties in behavior characteristics in an emotionally-willed and value-regulatory areas of the individual. Especially lack of values in the goals and meaning in life. It can be argued that deviation as a form of behavior is directly dependent on a comprehensive personal education, guide and ensure the implementation of deviant behavior.

Deviating behavior, usually accompanied by negative emotions or emotional disorders, such as aggression or depression. Leading role in the origin of deviant behavior plays an alarm. Emotional problems pose difficulties relaxation (relax) and self-regulation in general. Violations also affect the regulation of arbitrary action - target, planning, evaluation and self-control. Self-regulation, in turn, may be compromised because of personal characteristics, such as: poor voice control, low reflexivity, low self-esteem.

To study the properties of the individual personality of adolescents who are destructive behaviors, was organized following a study: diagnosis of anxiety on the scale of anxiety, self-diagnosis level on how Budassi, diagnosis of the state aggression on the questionnaire Bass-Darko. The study was conducted with a group of students of deviant behavior, with 10 people (aged 14 to 16 years).

Analysis of diagnostic results showed that adolescents with disruptive behaviors observed inadequate self-esteem (40% of students), a high level of anxiety (40% of students), aggression (50% of students). Because of low self-esteem as compensation triggered aggression, and therefore there self-appraisal anxiety.

For the prevention of deviant behavior of adolescents, we, together with psychologists point psychological and educational rehabilitation and correction offer a program on prevention of deviant behavior of adolescents. “

The goal of the program: to provide adolescents with opportunities to understand the importance of the acquisition of social skills, expanding the repertoire of children’s role, ensuring the improvement of communication and contributing to the security of social experimentation, the peculiar adolescence; updating process of social self-determination, creating a positive environment self-appraisal.

After examining the causes of deviant behavior and analyzing the results of diagnosis, you can propose the following remedial work with adolescents deviant behavior:

* Decline in personal anxiety and aggression;

* Removal of provoking factors of deviant behavior in children (advisory work with parents);

* Training of adolescent communication skills;

* Development of positive self-esteem.

Thus, the manifestation of deviant behavior associated with the personal characteristics of adolescents, especially such a high level of anxiety, high level of aggression, inadequate self-esteem. At the same time, there are adequate measures to prevent destructive behavior of adolescents, and it is against their need to build rehabilitative work with children and students in schools.